Happy is a Strong Word

I guess the following can sound like an advertisement, which in a sense it is.

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I had a rough November-December and one of the things I talked about was getting to a better place mentally. I wish I could say that I’m all better now and that everything is smooth sailing. That would be nice, wouldn’t it?

I mentioned before that I found something to help with the process but unfortunately that fell through. It didn’t work out as well as I hoped it would but I did find something else, purely by accident, which has worked somewhat. But the thing with it is that it’s supposed to be a work in progress.

I’m not here to play cryptic games- It is a book called HOW TO BE HAPPY (or at least, less sad). Now is that a title or what?

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I found out about this book from watching this video from Josh Sundquist in collaboration with 100days, the YouTube channel where John Green and his friend Chris Benzine work on all aspects of fitness for 100 days. It was something in passing but the title stuck out to me.

It was created by Lee Crutchley as a workbook to help people who are ‘not happy’ feel less sad. He writes in the introductory section of the book “In fact, the working title for this book was Have You Tried Being Less Sad?” Honestly, I would have picked up that book, too. But it has a snappy title that does immediately catch your attention if you are seeking a way to be less unhappy.

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Lee does not promise ‘all the answers’ or a ‘secret’ to feeling better.

This book will not fix you, and it will not make you happy

I like that he’s blunt about that because it’s true. The point of the book is to push you to put to paper things that may help you feel less miserable. There are pages to be filled with questions and diagrams. They’re not ‘easy answers’. The statements require you to dig deep and ponder your existence (sometimes at least). You have to put in effort to fill them up, so in a way, using this book is a choice- you are choosing to try to be happy, or ‘at least less sad’.

I have been using the book for little under a month now and it has been therapeutic. I am not in the position to afford therapy but this comes close.

The following pictures are from his website because I’ve filled some of them in, and also, these are better pictures than what I could take:

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Anyway, if it’s something you might be interested in, do look up the book. It’s been helpful to me.

Have a great week ahead! x

2016 Inspiration

I’ve become the person who listens to podcasts in the car when I go from place to place. It’s pretty stereotypical, and I know a lot of people do that. It has been a while since I’ve truly gotten into podcast-listening (because SERIAL was more of a ‘binge listening’ thing) and it’s been nice, a good change from my random Spotify shuffled lists.

Anyway, one of the podcasts I’ve been listening to is The Lively Show with Jess Lively, and one of the most recent ones was with Alex Ikonn, co-creator of The Five Minute Journal, and all-around positivity speaker. So, I did look him up and I happened on one of his videos from 2012 that I thought I would share.

This is a neat way to review your 2015 while  we’re still in the beginning of the year, especially for those of you who have not done that. Or those of you, who like me, are feeling a little Debbie Downer or pretty anxious about the year ahead.

I hope it helps!

 

 

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Dear reader,

I don’t have any wisdom to impart, I only know what a new year can potentially bring. So, here’s what I wish for you in 2016:

  • That waking up in the morning is not a chore
  • That you never forget your keys
  • That you know when to pick a fight
  • That you know how to lose graciously
  • That every day you need to go out is a good hair day
  • That you never forget to charge your phone
  • That the pimples that form, heal well
  • That you never forget an umbrella for the days you’ll need it
  • That you remember to hug your parents when you next see them
  • That you never get lipstick on your teeth
  • That your eye liner be on point
  • That you learn to cry when you need to but remain composed in a tough situation
  • That you be open to love but be wise with your heart
  • That you don’t let your anger rule your mind and most of all, your mouth

Maybe this list is more for me, but I do wish this for all of you. Happy 2016, my lovelies. xx

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Enough

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I am in the midst of creating something based on the Lydia Bennet of The Lizzie Bennet Diaries for a Tumblr user, because I signed up for ‘Secret Santa for the Literary Web series Fans’. I ended up rewatching the whole series while doing paperwork and it brought me back to 2012 when I was obsessed with this production. It still is a revolutionary series, winning that Emmy and all.

But while searching for inspiration I happened to find a gifset of Daisy Johnson with the quote above. I thought it was suitable for Lydia’s character, and I’m basing my creation on that.

Anyway, that’s not really what the topic here is today- I want to write about how enough YOU are.

One of my favourite Broadway performers, Sierra Boggess loves using this quote because she was taught this by someone she considers a ‘guru’ in life. And partly because I adore Sierra, but mostly because of how beautiful it is, it’s become part of my mantra.

This is the quote:

You are enough. You are so enough. It is unbelievable how enough you are.

Isn’t that something? I think we often forget that. As a society, we strive for the betterment of ourselves and of the culture, but we sometimes lose sight of how substantial people are in this moment, at this point in time.

We are bubbling with potential. We are kinetic and potential energy just waiting to be converted into something else. We have so much to give, we are capable of so much. As a species, we are incredible. We are intricate, we are beautifully designed, we are designers ourselves.

You are enough.

No matter how many people leave you, no matter what struggles you have faced or are to face, you are enough. You are an incredible being, placed here in this point in time to make an impact. You are unique, you are a blessing. You change people’s lives every day, in little ways, by the choices you make.

You are enough.

Just because someone walks out of your life, just because you failed that test, just because you didn’t attain what you dreamt of, just because people have given up on you, just because you don’t fit into the mould, does not mean that you are not worth it. Your existence has a purpose.

You are enough.

You need to start believing that, I need to start believing that. It’s a good mantra to have, especially when you struggle with controlling the ruckus in your head.

‘You are enough’, I tell myself, when the urge to lean over that porcelain bowl creeps up. ‘You are enough’, I tell myself, when I need a boost in the mornings because the night before was a battle. ‘You are enough’, I tell myself, when I find that I feel completely and irrationally alone.

Who is this post for?

For you, if you’re going through a bad time. For myself, for the days when I need to remember that I’m better than my insecurities. For those of us who need a reminder that we are more than what is external.

You are enough. You are so enough. It is unbelievable how enough you are.