There are few things in life that send me absolutely berserk.
Last night, on our way to church, the two guys my housemate and I go with were talking about how tough their rotation currently is and how doctors who specialise in Obstetrics and Gynaecology tend to not get married young, or at all. They kept going on about how women should marry young, and that it’s okay for men to get married at an older age. One of them said, “It’s worse for women la, cause unlike for men when they’re over 35, our worth goes up.” [yes, structurally, that sentence is not quite sound, but I think you can deduce what it was suppose to convey] That set me of a bit.
“Excuse me, how sexist is that!”
“What do you mean ‘sexist’, Grace??”
“You just said that men are ‘worth’ more than women once they’re over 35.”
“I’m just stating facts. You know what I mean..”
“No, I don’t. Please explain.”
“I don’t want to explain. You’re just gonna get mad.” “Yeah, Grace, you’re so sensitive today. Mood swings, irritability.. hehe”
I refused to speak to them for the next few hours. Number 1: you just implied that a woman is worth less than a man once they hit over 35. Number 2: you are implying that I’m irritated purely because I’m ‘PMS-ing’. Number 3: if you don’t think women are worth less than men, you could have said so. Or apologised. or retracted your statement.
It just annoys me so much that the ‘market value’ of a woman is relient on her age. It annoys me that society CARES about ‘market value’. It annoys me that as stated by my ‘fine’ colleagues, ‘men are worth more as they age’ as compared to women. That is utter rubbish. I cannot believe how bloodyminded some people are when it comes to things like this.
While I can understand that they’re only saying what society has conditioned them to think, it does not mean that they should think it. And to pull a low blow as to say that my irritation was because of my menstrual cycle.. that was beyond cheap.
Who cares if someone gets married below 30? [And before anyone bites my head off about this, I am not saying you should not get married/start a family before 30. Get married/ start a family at any point in time that works for you 🙌] Is it any of your business when a person decides to start a family? I acknowledge that pregnancies below 30 are safer, but does that imply that a woman is of less value just because she decides to put off procreation till she is above that age? Why does an older man have more appeal than an older woman? Just because a man is still functionally able to have kids at an age beyond 60 does not mean that he is of ‘better value’.