October 21, 2014 § Leave a comment
Survivor came out in the late 90’s and I used to watch it quite regularly. If you haven’t watched the show, it’s about well, surviving. A bunch of contestants, complete strangers are tossed to an island and divided to 2 (or more) tribes where they have to live off the land, compete for supplies and finally, vote each other off. Primitive methods but it makes for good TV (at least in the 90s).
I have a bunch of friends that I truly adore, some of which I have met in person and some of which are online acquaintances. But they all have one thing in common: they’re a freaking supportive bunch. Marie Forleo and Todd Herman spoke about the importance of building a tribe here, and I couldn’t agree more.
A tribe, much like the ones on Survivor are there to help you make it through the ‘trial’ which is life. You make alliances, you make pacts, you stick together, you cheer each other on. Unfortunately for a lot of us, we tend to fall back to the same attitudes we see on Survivor: the backstabbing, the mean comments. I won’t deny that I too, have behaved that way too.
But with experience comes maturity (in some ways) and I have learned to build my friends up instead of being petty and jealous. I love all my girls and wish them the best. But I don’t refrain from being harsh in circumstances that require it because sometimes, tough love is needed. I will cheer you on but I will also ask that you be realistic, not to bite off more than you can chew and to set realistic expectations.
I do hope we all have friendships that allow us to be ecstatic about the person’s success in life. They are your tribe: their success is your success, it should propel you further. Never let jealousy overwhelm you, it leads to bitterness and resentment.
Maxie McCoy writes about Why You Need a Tribe in her guest post on The College Prepster here. Take a read and start creating your own little support system.
October 19, 2014 § Leave a comment
So, I think this has been the most productive week I have had so far. I have actually studied, I feel better physically, I feel better emotionally and I am actually happier. I would consider Inspire Week to be a success for me. I know, it probably wasn’t as resourceful for the rest of you, but I hope you found a reason to look for inspiration in your own life.
To conclude, here are my main suggestions:
I really recommend the morning routine: Having a purpose and direction in the morning has helped provide a good ‘base’ for my day.
Taking a few minutes to meditate. I can vouch for this after trying it for a week. Meditation is really good for you to take time in the quiet. Add manifesting to that, and you’re really good to go. It’s such a helpful method of recognising what you truly want in life.
Exercising for short bits. It’s convenient and it is such a boost to your day.
Anyway, I thought I’d leave you with good resources on getting inspired or just feeling better!:
- 10 Things You Should Tell Yourself Every Morning
- What to do when you feel overwhelmed by work
- Trick for Finding New Inspiration
- 10 Mistakes to Make by 25
- Ways To Work Smarter Not Harder
- 8 Ways to Be Kinder to Ourselves
- What are you waiting for?
I actually can’t write much right now, I do have more studying to do, but yeah. I thought I’d end this week with that, and go back to my ‘usual’ stuff tomorrow. I think I need a new Something Day, like how I do Five Friday? Maybe a Talk Tuesday (audio post) or a Photo of the Week on Sundays? Or if you have any ideas, you could let me know on Twitter or in the comments. :)
October 18, 2014 § Leave a comment
I have had productive day and I’m very grateful for that. My parents are coming down tomorrow, so a good day is what I needed and I am very happy that I got it. That image above was created by InspiredlyInsane aka Irene who does beautiful typography. If only Society 6 shipped to Malaysia!
October 17, 2014 § 2 Comments
Do you have teachers that have changed your life for the better? I have. I have these five amazing people that made me want to study, that helped me so much because of who they are. I thought for Inspire Week I would talk about them.
1. Bahasa Melayu (Malay Language) teacher in Std 5 and 6: Puan Jamilah
I love Puan Jamilah. I wasn’t great at Malay. I could speak the language fluently but writing compositions was a tough thing for me. I approached her, I did extra work and she was one of the few teachers in our small school but she was willing to help me. She was always so supportive and kind. She never made any of us feel like getting those A’s in UPSR (aka the Std 6 ‘BIG EXAM’) was impossible.
2. Mr. Eng, my Science tuition teacher from Form 1 to 3
This man made me fall in love with science even more. Mr. Eng taught my brother when he was sitting for PMR and so, likewise, he taught me. I won’t lie, I owe my good foundation in science to this man. He made sure we all understood, he taught us how to understand the intricacies of the universe. When we didn’t understand material easily, he’d go through it again and again. As a retired entomologist, he used to relate his time in the field with what our material of the day was, telling us so many stories. He believed in me, and for that I am truly grateful.
3. English teacher in Form 5: Puan Nurhayati
Pn. Nurhayati is one of my favourite teachers from high school. She had style, sass and a way with words that made you wonder if she was teasing or completely serious. I first met her when she was in charge of the English Club when I was in Form 3, and I have been a fan ever since. A few of us (Nina and Jess) basically coerced her to taking my class in Form 5 because we really wanted a teacher that would inspire us to write better, instead of just writing well enough to get good grades. I used to borrow storybooks from Pn. Nurhayati, that’s how cool she is. If I ever visit high school one day, I am definitely giving her a hug.
4. A- Level Biology teacher: Miss Nesa
Miss Nesa didn’t use projectors in class. Armed with a marker pen, she would write on the board explaining our syllabus so beautifully. I am very grateful for her because during Form 4 and Form 5, I fell out of love with Biology because my high school teacher was frankly, lackluster, especially after Mr. Eng. Miss Nesa was magic. She really cared about how we did, she really loved science. She provided extra material for us to read and always made sure we understood principles, not just facts. I still remember things from A-levels because she was frankly that good.
5. Mr. Razak, one of my clinical tutors
This may seem silly but I only had 3 classes with this man but I was completely smitten. Mr. Razak is this General Surgeon who takes bedside classes with us, but only at night due to his work. I wasn’t too keen at the start because that meant class started at 8.30pm to 10.30pm. After our first class, I completely changed my mind. He is terrific. Unlike most surgeons, he has the best bedside manner I have ever seen. And he doesn’t bully us, like other tutors do sometimes. He’s very nurturing and teaches us EVERYTHING about management. I always tell myself that when I graduate, I want to be a doctor like Mr. Razak.
These 5 people are my heroes. I tend to get along with my teachers but I don’t always adore them. These 5 however, have helped mould my mind and for that I will be eternally grateful.
October 16, 2014 § Leave a comment
I found out today that I didn’t even make it to the top of the list, or top ten or top anything for the quiz I was so psyched about. Needless to say, I am a bit more than just ‘bummed out’. But the fact remains that I didn’t deserve it. I did not work hard enough to garner any praise for there was no effort on my part.
I am not going to dwell on it. I actually had a good study session with my housemate today. I actually covered 2 conditions and I really am proud that studying with a friend worked. I used to do it with my friend William during A-levels, so to speak. We wouldn’t exactly discuss stuff but we’d hang out in the library together to study. I forget how good it is to be accountable to someone. So, that’s my BIG study time for all of you out there: Study with a friend who wants to get through your education just as badly.
Last night, I had a bit of a meltdown. If you follow me on Twitter, you might have seen that I was still pretty awake at 1 something in the morning, which is rare for me, especially since I have to get up early the next day. I ended up rearranging my whole room, which is pretty psychotic actually. But my room actually looks better and I did feel better after doing it. I find that rearranging my room makes me feel like I am rearranging my life. And I do enjoy it.
What’s my inspiration tip of the day?
Find the positive in a situation, even if it does hurt you a lot. I wanted to cry when I found out that I didn’t win anything. I really wanted it, very very much. But I didn’t get it and I didn’t want to focus on that. I wanted to focus on how I was able to study something else. I wanted to focus on how I could succeed in another aspect of my life. I didn’t make and that’s okay.
October 15, 2014 § Leave a comment
I got a letter from a good friend in the US of A today and it just reminded me how grateful I am to be supported by beautiful people all around the globe. Having such kind friends who bother to write letters or leave me messages on any form of social media is very meaningful.
It’s not easy to keep in touch with people, especially when they’re so far away. Nowadays, it’s not exactly an excuse to say ‘I can’t contact you’ or ‘I don’t see you’ because of the many advances technology has made: Skype, Facetime, Emailing, Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook. It’s so much easier to ‘keep in touch’, but only easy if you actually want to. There are times when things just fall apart and you find that you don’t actually want to make the effort. After years of having strained relationships, I have learned that if I truly want to, I would keep up with people.
The Internet has helped bring so many new people in to my life. I have made real friends here, since I was just starting to ‘get the hang of it’ when I was 13 years until now. Internet friends are REAL friends. Sometimes, you can connect with people so much more because it is far easier to let yourself speak freely without having to physically be there. Long gone are the days when you’d be very panicked to speak to a stranger online (sure, there’s still a real danger, but a lot of the time, you find REAL people).
I have great friends, and blog readers too, that genuinely take an interest in my life and pop up to check in on me. It’s hard to explain the euphoria you get when someone bothers to say HI. It means a lot, in ways that can’t be easily verbalised.
Thank YOU for reading this blog.
Thank YOU for leaving comments in any form (be it actually on WordPress or when you talk to me in Google hangouts or Whatsapp or Twitter or even Snapchat).
Thank YOU for taking time out for me.
I am truly humbled by your presence in my life. xx
October 14, 2014 § Leave a comment
One thing I see a lot from listening to talks and reading my favourite blogs is that they have a morning routine. Here is Carly’s (The College Prepster) morning routine and here are JennyPurr’s rules. Marie Forleo stated that highly productive people have 4 main habits which include having a strict morning routine. Clearly, there is a pattern here.
As with the theme of this week, I have been inspired to create my own new routine, one that I intend to follow for good long while. The main function of a morning routine is to allow yourself to prepare for the day ahead, time out for you to get in touch with your ‘inner self’. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, it doesn’t have to be fancy or similar to anyone else’s routine. It’s meant for you to revitalise your soul.
I thought I’d share with you what I came up with. My day typically starts at 5.45 to 6.15am, depending on whether I have classes in the morning.
1. Spend 3 minutes manifesting my goals. It’s a technique, similar to The Secret, where you concentrate on what you want in life. It’s usually specific goals like “getting 18/20 on the test” or “losing 10 pounds”. It involves truly focusing on the goals and completely, whole-heartedly, “any other verb that expresses the same intent” believing that you ARE that person, you CAN do it, you WILL get it.
2. 10 minutes of exercise. What I really enjoy about SparkPeople/SparkTeens is their 10 minute workouts. It can be cardio, it can be strength training, yoga, pilates.. they have short videos that are usually pretty easy to follow, or at least allows you to pace yourself. I find that if I try to do MAJOR exercise routines in the morning, I get overwhelmed or annoyed, so I end up not doing anything. 10 minutes is pretty short, so it’s a doable step. And 10 minutes every now and then adds up in the end. :)
3. Breakfast. DEFINITELY not skipping this again. I did stick to having breakfast quite often but I found myself slacking off at times. I really need to stick to a proper routine and have breakfast on a daily basis. It IS the most important meal of the day, so I must remember to fuel myself in the mornings.
4. Prayer. I have not kept a proper routine when it comes to prayer. Sure, prayer should be organic and not forced, but making sure I take time out in the morning TO pray, to spend some time in conversation with God will help improve my own spiritual life. I have found myself lacking in determination to stick to things and I believe it’s partly because I am not spiritually fed. It’s high time I return to my roots.
5. Go through my Bloglovin feed. By the time I wake up in the morning, most of the blogs I follow on Bloglovin’ would have updated at least one post, depending on the regularity of said blogs. I usually find reading their thoughts or looking at DIY projects or pretty pictures makes me feel more inspired. And I can do this while eating my cereal. :)
Here’s the video where Marie Forleo speaks about the 4 main habits that Really Productive People keep to. These habits are pretty simple and can be easily incorporated in your own life:
Do you have morning routine yourself? or do you want to start one? Leave comment below or talk to me on Twitter. :) Have a good day/evening, lovelies!